This past year my firefighter and I celebrated 26 years of marriage. I am so proud of the life that we've built together. I'm even more proud that we are in the stage of what I call in my book, Fire Wife, "The Juicy Peach" stage.
I call it the juicy peach stage because the actual peach tree is a very sensitive one and takes real tend, trial and error. More often than not it takes YEARS before those juicy peaches start to even show up on those branches. Doesn't that sound like a marriage to you?
While some couples may have had a smoother relationship together, I do know for certain that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. All relationships go through rough patches and growing pains and I am so glad that my hubby and I grew and got through.
While the EBOOK of Fire Wife is out, I won't actually really launch it until the paperback is out. There have been significant setbacks that have been totally out of my hands that have caused it's delay, but hopefully not to much longer. I cannot wait for you to hold it in your hands and read it! In some ways it's a love letter to you. It's also a guide for what you can expect to get through and some suggestions, suggestions wrapped in experience, for how to successfully journey through those unique challenges.
Once upon a time I did not for a second believe that my husband and I were going to make it. This fire life can be stifling when you are a freedom lover. You can't be as spontaneous because of shift work and you certainly cannot phone up the chief or the captain when YOU have a problem. There is procedure and there are processes that must be adhered to and that can be hard.
There may have been a messy middle in our marriage as we navigated his new career, but I held onto my dreams too and I think having a solid self and a solid life apart from the department is pivotal to your own happiness. They say that the fairy tale of a marriage is at the beginning of it but I beg to differ. The true joy for me with my firefighter is now, when after being married for a long time and knowing how much you've loved each other through thick and thin, you get to this sweet spot...this beautiful place of acceptance and appreciation - you don't try to change each other, you in fact love him just as he is and he you. The Juicy Peach Stage. You'll find out the other stages of a fire marriage when you read Fire Wife.
But in the meantime, enjoy some of my blog posts. You can also visit my website for more reading www.firewifewise.com and don't forget to give me your email on the website so I can email you my newsletter. I look forward to being a mentor to you if you need and I cannot wait to meet so many of you when this pandemic is over. Talk soon. XOXO
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